Lets take a look at the time we waste chasing love & sex.

Many people have been married at least once, some even 2-3 times & yet they are still completely alone. We date people, short term-long term, but in the end we break up in some disaster. We get our heart broken, then find someone who we will never love & yet our heart gets broken more. We spend years & decades in this relationship that we know is worthless. We ignore the facts & make excuses to stay longer. Many times our long lasting relationships are but a matter of convince & ego. How much more time must we waste in this hopeless chase?
Time we could have spent developing ourselves or working on family relationships. Things that we neglected now years later suffer with us as we try to rebuild what we ignored or put to the side. How often do our actions say "thank you for showing me that the only person you care about is yourself, let me reward you by giving you my heart, body & time". Throughout the years we have had chances to be with someone who actually cares about us but we refuse them for someone who is so selfish, so manipulative so wicked that all we can do is give them our love. Then we get hurt again & again. We complain to friends who could be potential partners, but we rather abuse them by blabbing our negative energy towards them, thus bringing them down also.
Years pass by & all we do is ignore the truth to the best of our ability & make more excuses. We tell people "if I dated you I know you would not treat me this way, you would respect me", but we have no interest in that person who we tell that to. We get mad when people say things like we want to be disrespected, abused or neglected but our actions only prove them right. Then sometimes we admit that the other person is right, or we say something prophesying a grim future that is guaranteed if we stay in this relationship, but we do nothing about this. Then when our prophecy comes true, it's even worse than we had predicted. But do we leave then, no.
In a long lasting relationship someone is abusing, misusing, cheating, lying, stealing from, or something to that matter. Sometimes both persons are in it for something. One may be in a financial situation where they rather stay with the person & get that money while the other has such low self esteem they feel they better make this relationship work because this is the best they will ever have. Some don't want to date so they stay, many fear being alone so they spend years with someone they don't care about. At times, we marry people we were never even attracted to. We raise a family with someone that we never even liked. Then one day, after 10, 20, 30 years (sometimes more) we get the truth in a cold sentence "I never loved you".
Now that the time has passed we are forced to start over again. This is our greatest fear. Or maybe, even in the face of truth we stay anywhere, because where are we going to go. Nobody will take us this is the best we'll ever have & we don't want to die alone. Yet we are alone. Married with children & alone. In a 20+ year relationship & more lonely then a single person. So heartbroken everytime we turn around in the bed & see the face of that person we have dedicated so many years of our lives to. Everyone was so happy at the wedding except those who knew the truth, yet for that moment, we all ignored this truth & smiled for you, congratulated you, bought you gifts. For a short time it was good, but that time has ended so long ago it's but a vague memory in our minds. We have eachother's pictures on the walls & in our wallets. We call eachother honey baby & all those other things, yet the relationship we're in is not making us a better person. We're being slowly brought down by a parasite that we allow in our life.
Why do we choose people who are like the other person who played us? I mean, I can't be with Jane because she's too much of a bitch, but I can be with Mary who's just like her. We date 10 different people but they're all the same old Jane but with a different name.
Let us now look at an old classic love song & try to find the meaning beyond what the words say.
As I walk this land of broken dreams,  
I have visions of many things.
Love's happiness is just an illusion,
Filled with sadness and confusion.
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe.
The fruits of love grow all around
But for me they come a tumblin' down.
Every day heartaches grow a little stronger,
I can't stand this pain much longer!
I walk in shadows,
Searching for light.
Cold and alone,
No comfort in sight.
Hoping and praying for someone to care,
Always moving and goin' nowhere.
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find,
Some kind of peace of mind.
Help me..
I'm searching though I don't succeed,
For someone's love, there's a growing need.
Oh, he is lost, there's no place for beginning,
All that's left is an unhappy ending.
Now what becomes of the broken-hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find,
Some kind of peace of mind,
I'll be searching everywhere,
Just to find someone to care.
I'll be looking everyday,
I know I'm gonna find a way.
Nothings gonna stop me now,
I'll find a way somehow.
I'll be searching everywhere...
--What becomes of the brokenhearted by Jimmy Ruffin--